Backpacking as a couple is something truly special. Sharing the experience of travelling the world and seeing every country you’ve ever dreamed about with the person you love is the best feeling, but of course this will take its toll on your relationship at times. You’ll bicker about stupid things that mean nothing, or you’ll have blazing rows that will make or break you. Little things you used to find cute about that person will start to annoy you, and you’ll need to remind yourself that you love them fairly regularly.
We don’t mean to be a buzzkill, but if you’re sitting there thinking you and your partner won’t argue at all, you will. It’s completely normal to argue and we can guarantee you will, because even if you live together back home you’ve never been with each other 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, so rest assured the strength of your relationship will be tested. Luckily for you we’ve asked some real travelling couples for their advice, and we’ve put together some tips on what to do to avoid the arguments while couple’s backpacking.
Even though you’re backpacking as a couple, it’s important to make the effort to make friends with other people. You’ll meet so many new and interesting people while travelling the world it will be impossible to stick together the whole time. There will be times when you want to spend time together the two of you, and this is perfectly fine, but there will also be times when you need a bit of relief and taking time out to socialise with others will help take the edge off. You’ll appreciate the days when it’s just the two of you even more.
When undertaking a couple’s backpacking trip, there are inevitably many decisions to be made during the time you’re away. How much money to spend, where to visit next, how to get there; the list goes on! With so many decisions to be made, you will both need to learn to compromise in one way or another to avoid petty arguments and bad feeling.
Not being afraid to express how you feel is so important during an argument. You must communicate with each other and you must listen to each other in order to help resolve any conflicts that might arise. If you both ensure that you do this, you’ll both be more aware of what sets each other off and you can try to minimise this before it escalates into an argument. Don’t get us wrong, learning how to prevent arguments is challenging and will take some mastering, but you will get there.
Make sure you both look out for each other. There’s nothing worse than feeling alone, especially if you’re in the middle of Asia and far from home, so always be there for your partner and think about what’s best for both of you. This will make you feel like there’s always someone on your team even if you’re in the middle of the biggest argument ever. Remember you love each other and tomorrow is a new day.
There is nothing a good pair of noise cancelling headphones can’t help with. Couple’s travel is the worst opportunity for those things you like about your partner to start annoying you. Perhaps it’s the way they chew their food so loud, or maybe there’s one day when their voice is irrationally irritating you; whatever it is, put on your headphones, go and sit on the beach and listen to some good music until you’ve calmed down. We love these Quiet Comfort ones from Bose!
We cannot stress enough how important it is to take some time to yourself when you’re backpacking as a couple. Yes, you’re seeing the world together and it’s amazing, but sometimes you will need to separate and do your own thing. Perhaps you’d like to wander around the market while he sits and has a beer, or you fancy getting a massage while he goes and wanders around a temple. Whatever you want to do for you, do it. It’s your trip too after all.
Spending so much time together means it’s super easy to forget that you’re actually a couple in a loving relationship. Whether you’re at home or travelling the world, it’s easy for life to get in the way and to forget to appreciate each other. Make sure you have date nights and spend quality time together. Decide what you’d both like to do and maybe allow a little bit more of your budget to pay for it so it feels like a real treat. It’s so important to remind yourselves why you’re together so you can think about the good times when you’re in the depths of an argument.
Above all, remember you’re travelling the world and it’s the most incredible experience you’ll ever have AND you get to share it with each other! Bare with the tough times and power through the arguments; before you know it you’ll be a well-oiled machine and you’ll be panicking about coping back in the real world without this person stuck to your side the whole time.
If spending an entire trip together isn’t enough, you should get yourselves a couple’s travel insurance policy too. Travel insurance is the most sensible purchase you’ll make throughout your entire trip so make sure you cover yourselves with a policy that suits all your needs. That’s one less thing to argue about!
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Thank you to Independent Couple (@thecajkovic), Cafe Con Leche (@cafeconlecheTw), Amy & Nathan (@twodriftersxo), Heidi (@WagonersAbroad) and Fulltime Nomad (@FTNomad) for their great advice on avoiding arguments while travelling!
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